From Pink Lady to Hypnotherapist in Calgary: Understanding The Roles We Play Through Parts Therapy

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Do you find yourself struggling with different parts of your personality, where one part of you wants to do one thing while another part desires something entirely different?

Do you often feel like you are constantly playing different roles, trying to meet various expectations? Perhaps you experience inner conflicts or self-sabotaging behaviors that hold you back from reaching your full potential. You’re not alone in this experience. Many people feel the tension between different aspects of themselves, and this can significantly affect their mental health.

If you are nodding along, then no worries—you’re not alone. I’m here to help. As a mental health practitioner, I’m here to help with your emotional wellbeing.

In this guide, we’ll explore my personal experiences with various roles and how they led me to clinical hypnotherapy.  Not only will you gain insight into how these experiences shaped my understanding of parts therapy, but you’ll also discover practical strategies to harmonize the different aspects of yourself. These insights are backed by years of clinical experience within the mental health industry.

I’m sharing this story because I am an expert clinical hypnotherapist committed to helping people rewire their minds for optimal living. So, if there’s a “part” of you that’s longing for a sense of peace and wholeness in life, then I invite you to read on.

 

My Pink Lady Jacket Journey

As a pre-teen, my world was filled with the influential women of film and TV. Among them, the Pink Ladies from ‘Grease 1 and 2’ stood out. They were bold, rebellious, and shared a tight-knit bond. Inspired by their fierce spirit, I embarked on a quest to find a pink satin jacket just like theirs.

The Role I Was Born to Play

The jacket I found wasn’t an exact replica of the Pink Ladies’ style—it had white stars woven into its fabric—but it was still special to me. Every time I wore it, I felt like I was channeling the boldness of Rizzo from ‘Grease 1’ and Stephanie from ‘Grease 2’. It was as if I had stepped into a role that I was born to play.

A Twist in the Tale

But then, one day, my role changed. My beloved jacket vanished. After weeks of searching, I discovered that a friend of mine had stolen it.

The irony of the situation was not lost on me; it was my first encounter with what some might refer to as karma, pointing back to a time in my childhood when I had stolen, of all things, a tiny Barbie shoe from a friend—which I did return. But now the shoe was on the other foot, quite literally.

I asked myself, was the betrayal I was now feeling similar to what my friend had experienced when I took her possession? There was a part of me that felt betrayed and wanted to give this girl a piece of my mind.

Meanwhile, another part was whispering, reminding me of my own slip-ups in the past. And let’s not forget the lurking guilt from my past indiscretions. I could feel the internal struggle. Suddenly, this pink jacket with its white stars became special to me for a whole new set of reasons. Unbeknownst to my sneaky friend, I was learning a whole new set of lessons from this girl who bunched up and stashed my prized jacket under her bed for a month.

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Lessons Learned

In the now wrinkled folds of my Pink Lady jacket lay the beginning of important life lessons. It reminded me of the impact our actions have on others and the roles we play in each other’s stories. Like the Pink Ladies, we navigate through various characters, and we play various roles.

Along the way, we encounter different parts of ourselves, each contributing to the complexity of our identity. Reflecting on the jacket, I’m reminded that we’re all lifelong students, constantly learning and evolving into more-rounded versions of ourselves with every part we play. I don’t remember what happened to the jacket after that, but those lessons? They’re stitched into my memory.

Roles Shaped by Beliefs

Just as I slipped into that pink jacket long ago, I now find myself stepping into the role of a clinical hypnotherapist. I see firsthand how these roles continue to shape our lives and how sometimes people get stuck in personas that do not serve them well. Clients come to me with their struggles, often feeling trapped in the parts they play due to limiting beliefs. Some may see themselves as the victim of their own story, while others identify as the perfectionist striving for unattainable standards. There are also those who view themselves as the people-pleaser, caretaker, overachiever, avoidant, impostor, or rebel. In therapy, individuals can explore the different parts of themselves and work towards greater self-awareness, acceptance, and growth.

 

In the therapy room, I witness the power of self-awareness and transformation. As clients heal and integrate their various parts, they discover ways to rewrite their own narratives. They embrace their complexity, recognizing that they are not defined by singular roles. In this space, they uncover the keys to inner peace and profound self-acceptance, embracing the entirety of their inner selves with compassion and understanding.

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What Is Parts Therapy?

Parts therapy is an integral part of this transformative process. Parts therapy, also known as Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, involves recognizing and communicating with the different internal parts or sub-personalities within oneself to achieve harmony and understanding.

Each part represents a distinct role, with its own beliefs and motivations.

By engaging in parts therapy, clients can bring harmony to these internal roles, understanding how each part contributes to their overall sense of self.

Parts therapy operates on the premise that our psyche is divided into various parts, each with its own perspective, desires, and concerns.

For example, you might have an inner critic part that constantly points out your flaws, an inner child part that seeks comfort and safety, and a caregiver part that prioritizes the needs of others.

Often, these parts can be in conflict with each other, leading to internal stress and confusion.

It is important to understand that all of these parts are there to serve and protect you. Even the so-called “bad” parts have your success as their ultimate goal; they sometimes just need a little direction.

For example, if there’s a part of you that tends to procrastinate, it might be there to protect you from feeling overwhelmed by tasks or responsibilities. If there’s a part of you that struggles with anger or frustration, it might be there to defend you from feeling powerless or vulnerable.

If there’s a part of you that’s anxious, it might be trying to prepare for potential risks or uncertainties to keep you safe. And while there’s a part of you that feels anxious, there’s also a calm part that offers reassurance. The goal of parts therapy is to create dialogue and negotiation between these parts, encouraging cooperation.  

This process allows individuals to integrate these aspects of themselves, leading to a more balanced and harmonious internal state.

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What Is Clinical Hypnotherapy?

Clinical hypnotherapy is a therapeutic technique that harnesses the power of guided relaxation and focused attention to access the subconscious mind and facilitate positive behavioral and emotional changes. Grounded in neuroscience, hypnotherapy works by tapping into the subconscious mind, where deeply rooted beliefs and patterns reside. By understanding the principles of neuroplasticity, which highlight the brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections, hypnotherapy leverages this knowledge to effectively rewire the brain.

While clients are in a state of focused attention during hypnotherapy sessions, they enter a state of heightened suggestibility, allowing them to bypass the critical faculty of the conscious mind and access the subconscious directly. In this state, clients can explore the underlying beliefs and thought patterns that influence their behaviors and perceptions. By accessing this deeper level of awareness, individuals can identify and reframe limiting beliefs, release emotional blockages, and cultivate new perspectives aligned with their goals. Various protocols are used in each session.

Therapeutic protocols in hypnotherapy refer to specific techniques and approaches customized to the individual needs of each client. These protocols may include various methods such as guided imagery, suggestion therapy, regression therapy, cognitive restructuring, and other therapeutic interventions tailored to address the unique challenges and goals of the client. By tailoring the techniques used in each session to the client’s specific needs and preferences, hypnotherapists can maximize the effectiveness of the therapy and facilitate positive changes more efficiently. This individualized approach ensures that the therapy is highly personalized and targeted to address the root causes of the client’s issues, leading to more profound and lasting transformation.

Through this transformative process, clients are empowered to break free from the constraints of old roles and embrace the opportunity for growth and fulfillment. By actively participating in rewiring their brains for positive change, they can achieve lasting behavioral and emotional transformations.

The Potency of Combining Hypnotherapy & Parts Therapy

The potency of hypnotherapy in parts therapy lies in its unique ability to delve into the subconscious mind, the reservoir of deeply ingrained beliefs and patterns. Unlike conventional talk therapy, which primarily addresses the conscious mind, hypnotherapy offers direct access to the subconscious.

Within this heightened state of suggestibility, individuals can explore the web of beliefs and thought patterns that underpin their behaviors and perceptions. This depth of exploration enables a profound understanding of the motivations and intentions of the various internal parts.

Hypnotherapy excels in reframing limiting beliefs, dissolving emotional barriers, and nurturing fresh perspectives and behaviors aligned with personal goals and values. By accessing the subconscious, hypnotherapy targets the core issues behind internal conflicts and challenges.

Additionally, hypnotherapy nurtures an environment where individuals can break free from outdated roles and patterns. Through safe exploration, clients integrate their internal parts, promoting self-awareness, acceptance, and fulfillment. The results are often profound.

“Role” With The Changes

Here are some steps you can take to uncover the roles you play and work to change them if they don’t serve you. With the assistance of hypnotherapy and parts therapy, these steps can be even more impactful:

Self-reflection: 

Take time for introspection and self-reflection. Journaling prompts or mindfulness practices can help you explore your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, while hypnotherapy can deepen this introspective process by accessing the subconscious mind.

Identify patterns:

Recognize recurring patterns in your life, such as relationship dynamics or habitual reactions. These patterns can offer insight into the roles you may be playing. Hypnotherapy can help you delve into these patterns at a deeper level, facilitating a clearer understanding of their origins and implications.

Question assumptions:

Challenge the beliefs and assumptions you hold about yourself and the world around you. Consider whether these beliefs align with your values and goals. Hypnotherapy can aid in this process by allowing you to examine these assumptions from a different perspective, opening the door to new insights and possibilities.

Seek feedback:

Ask for feedback from trusted friends, family members, or mentors. External perspectives can provide valuable insight into how others perceive your  behaviors. Hypnotherapy can complement this feedback by helping you integrate and process it on a subconscious level, promoting greater self-awareness and understanding.

Experiment with change:

Be open to trying new ways of being and behaving. Step outside of your comfort zone and explore different roles to see how they resonate with you. Hypnotherapy can support you in this exploration by enhancing your confidence, motivation, and resilience, empowering you to embrace change and growth.

Practice self-compassion:

Be gentle with yourself as you navigate the journey of self-discovery. Embrace your imperfections and celebrate your growth along the way. Hypnotherapy can help with self-compassion by creating a deeper sense of self-acceptance and self-love.

By incorporating hypnotherapy and parts therapy into these practices, you can cultivate awareness of the roles you play and begin to make choices that align with your best interests. Remember, self-discovery is a journey, and each step you take brings you closer to living a life that is true to who you are. Honour your authentic self. It’s your story.

About Me:

I’m Shannon Shade, RCH, a Registered and Accredited Clinical Hypnotherapist based out of Calgary, Alberta. 

With a passion for guiding individuals towards self-discovery and transformation, I offer personalized sessions tailored to your unique needs. Utilizing techniques grounded in neuroscience, I specialize in addressing a wide range of conditions including phobias, anxiety, panic attacks, self-esteem issues, addiiction, grief, sleep disorders, PTSD, heartbreak, depression, long-haul illness, and performance anxiety

Whether in-person or online, I’m dedicated to helping you unlock your true potential through the transformative power of clinical hypnotherapy.

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